Auspicious Date and Mom funeral

[myfs_155741]

Dear Cecil, my mom passed away last Dec 18, 2017 at 23h20 in my original country Asia.

People was asking me the date and time to close and to cremate the body. I do use your Paid Auspicious Date and Time to give them. According to your answer:

19 Dec 2017 (Tue) 2017, 11th month, 2 day Self Punishment with Rooster Year [View Hour]		1st person	chen-shu chen	Very Inauspicious
		2nd person	chen	Very Inauspicious
	20 Dec 2017 (Wed) 2017, 11th month, 3 day [View Hour]		1st person	yin-si si-shen	Auspicious
			2nd person	si-shen	Average
	21 Dec 2017 (Thu) 2017, 11th month, 4 day HS Bad Element 1 EB Bad Element 1 Self Punishment with Rooster Year [View Hour]		1st person	wu	Very Inauspicious
			2nd person	wu	Very Inauspicious

 

I decide to ask them to do on 3 day, month 11, but they denied. Their master fight and say the next day 2017, 11 4th is the good day for close and cremate for dragon (mom) and me as tiger.

Please help and give me final answer as soon as possible. Thanks alot

[Cecil Lee]

Firstly,  my condolences to you and your family.

Traditionally, burial or cremation is on odd days counting the day of the death.

Thus Traditionally therefore; Chinese don’t look at dates (eg. Auspicious to determine) such a case.

Burial or cremation is always odd days thus : the 3rd, 5th, 7th day etc..

Contrast that to offices opening after Chinese New Year. These dates are on eg. 2nd, 4th, 6th, 8th of any 1st month of the Chinese Lunar year.

Thus what you propose should be the tradition.

I am puzzled at the day chosen by the geomancer.

[Cecil Lee]

The rationale why we normally don’t look at auspicious dates to determine the day of cremation or burial is to use whose date?

If left to such things: common sense says cannot be the deceased. What about the eldest son’s or based on remaining partner’s birthdate?

Logically: can’t do so. How about the rest of the family’s birthdays? May thus cause a huge family rift etc..

The last thing “or Chinese system “ wants to avoid such things. This Traditionally it has been kept simple and clear-cut. Avoiding all sorts of interpretations based on yours and mum’s Birthdates etc...

In Essence middleman should never have been involved in such things. 

[myfs_155741]

thanks for quick prompt. The ceremony already happens and I think masters and monks already did whatever they think it's good. I cannot do anything now because I'm in far away my original country. Just pray for the soul. That's the only thing I can do. Thanks again.