Bed room feng shui

[Christina Ang]

Hello Master Cecil,
I've read the reply from you to user Anon earlier on with regards to bedroom
feng shui. My case, I'm sleeping in a room with my daughter. She is
sleeping on a double deck bed. Her bed is parked against a wall with a her
sleeping position facing the window and her legs when sleeping, facing a
cupboard.
For me, I'm sleeping on a third slide floor mattress. My slide floor
mattress is parked against a wall but for my sleeping position, my back head
is facing a door (door is closed at night) and my legs are facing the
window. May I ask, whether this is bad sleeping direction for me? How
about my daughter, is her sleep position good/bad for her?
My room shape left me with no choice that I need to sleep in this
unfavorable position. Any remedy for my sleeping position? I've read
before that if one sleeps without headboard, there will be no support for
the person. Can you explain what kind of support that they are referring to
in feng shui?
I've also read that according to feng shui, if one children's room is placed
opposite the parents' room, the children/child will tend to be logger
heads/very in a not good relationship with parents. May I ask is it true?
For me, seems like quite true, my seven years old daughter tends to be
logger head with me, she seldom listens to me and she tends to make me
angry. Any remedy to enhance our relationship? But my husband is sleeping
in the master bed room right opposite facing my daughter's room. But my
daughter likes my husband a lot, this doesn't quite tally with my earlier
saying. Hmmmmm, I'm confused.
Thank you.
Regards, Christina :)

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Sor Lan,
Please see below:-

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On 4/8/2003 6:27:02 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Hello Master Cecil,
I've read the reply from you
to user Anon earlier on with
regards to bedroom
feng shui. My case, I'm
sleeping in a room with my
daughter. She is
sleeping on a double deck bed.
Her bed is parked against a
wall with a her
sleeping position facing the
window and her legs when
sleeping, facing a
cupboard.

Before touching on with your question, in the past, I have mentioned on two issues:
1. double decker beds
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Previously, there were some concerns that double decker beds are unhealthy for the young.
But, in my opinion, and also that many (many) people have actually slept in a double decker bed, there is really no issue here.
Some FS practitioners spell out the notion that the person sleeping at the lower decker is like having a beam above their head.
I personally do not agree with this argument. This is because unlike a beam (concentrated) at the specific spot, the upper bed is relatively flat and does not exert an unequal press below it.
As mentioned above, there are lots of healthy adults who because of space constraints, had successfully, grown up healthy.
2. a bed must be raised
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Some FS practitioners `swear' that one should sleep on a raised bed to allow qi to circulate below the bed.
Again, this is simply speculation. Many responsible parents, prefer that their young e.g. of 1 year to 6 or more years sleep on a simple floor bed. Here, the child can simply walk to their bed. And it also minimize any falls from the bed to the ground.
In fact, based on your description, lots of children also sleep in this similar position. And I personally feel that there is no issue here.

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For me, I'm sleeping on a
third slide floor mattress.
My slide floor
mattress is parked against a
wall but for my sleeping
position, my back head
is facing a door (door is
closed at night) and my legs
are facing the
window. May I ask, whether
this is bad sleeping direction
for me? How
about my daughter, is her
sleep position good/bad for
her?

This position is ok. So long as the legs do not point towards the door. If so, this is considered inauspicious or `the coffin position'.
Many Feng Shui practitioners especially the traditional school of Feng Shui `requires' that the bed be positioned such that the head face the health or longevity sector.
This advise is common amongst all East/West Group (Eight House pratitioners).
However, as most of us are aware, a small child often toss and turn and their head can face all sorts of directions in any given night. Who is so cruel as to tie their own child down facing a good direction! This is indeed very cruel - the least. Perhaps, if there is a society for the prevention of cruety to children, one should report the parents to this society!

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My room shape left me with no
choice that I need to sleep in
this
unfavorable position. Any
remedy for my sleeping
position? I've read
before that if one sleeps
without headboard, there will
be no support for
the person. Can you explain
what kind of support that they
are referring to
in feng shui?

It would be indeed nice to have the head of the bed against a wall. This often means that the bed is in a good position where the persons on the bed can often see who is coming in or out of the room.
Often there is a wall prior to the windows above it. And in such a situation, there is often a support already.

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I've also read that according
to feng shui, if one
children's room is placed
opposite the parents' room,
the children/child will tend
to be logger
heads/very in a not good
relationship with parents.
May I ask is it true?
For me, seems like quite true,
my seven years old daughter
tends to be
logger head with me, she
seldom listens to me and she
tends to make me
angry. Any remedy to enhance
our relationship? But my
husband is sleeping
in the master bed room right
opposite facing my daughter's
room. But my
daughter likes my husband a
lot, this doesn't quite tally
with my earlier
saying. Hmmmmm, I'm confused.

Yes, I have often encountered such a situation. Last year, there was this house where the bedroom door of the parents room is facing the teenager (son's) room. Often, the son is rebellious against the father. Maybe this is coincidence.
But under symbolism in Feng Shui, there is a `cure'. This is where the door knob key holes are painted red. Where, then these two doors close, it is said that the `red eye' will ensure that parties from both rooms look eye to eye or (agree with each other).
Warmest Regards,
Cecil